Why Are You Here? Arguing Just To Argue: Are You Actually Thinking About What You Read/Hear/See…Or Are You Just Reacting?

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Now I’m not going to explain every single thing that Huffington meant when she said these words, you can read the article yourself, and you should because I think the most important part of this post is that if it doesn’t bring you joy, you need to find something that does, but lots of people didn’t get that part, took one look at who wrote it and went “YOU FUCKING RICH BITCH HOW DARE YOU SPEAK TO US LESS FOLKS AS IF WE’RE DUMB.” No question, just a period.

Rejecting burnout doesn’t mean rejecting the possibility of finding joy in our work, and loving our work. – Arianna Huffington

I will say though that so many of us feel like we’re not being heard, that we’re too quick to argue, to push a point to make sure that we’re being heard, that we’re not realizing we’re literally fighting with people that agree with us, we’re just using different words to say THE SAME FUCKING THING.

My mom’s been doing that a lot lately, “that’s not what I’m saying,” has been a routine for me to use with her, because I’m saying something, and she’s in such a hurry to put her 2 cents in, that she’s not actually listening to the words coming out of my mouth, and often our conversations end with “YES, I AGREE WITH YOU…”

The problem is that oftentimes we’re in such a rush to go to battle, that we’re not stopping, to breathe, close our eyes, take a moment, and decompress. We are in such a rush to get angry, that we’re not actually taking the time to ask ourselves…”what did we just hear?” And when we react to what we THINK we’ve heard, we’re often more disrespectful and petty than necessary, because built-up anxiety, emotion, and stress, often don’t bring out the best of ourselves to those who are trying to communicate.

Speak Little Listen Much – Unknown Spiritual Advisor

I read this line in a book, and it’s not often I can point to someone or something that made me gasp, but that’s what I’m learning to do, is listen more and speak less, but when you see me on Social media you see me tweeting all the time thinking that “I” believe I’m an authority.

Well thank you as that is one of the best compliments that I have ever received. One of my favorite mantras is "We are all students and we are all teachers". So we all end up drawing inspiration from each other.
— DA Just Asking (@DAJustAsking) August 27, 2022

This is the part. “We are all teachers, and we are all students.” Each of us has an experience the person sitting next to us in the office, the bus, the bathroom, the kitchen, or the bedroom, doesn’t have.

If we’re willing to take the time to actually get to know each other, without all the lights, the cameras, without all the “attention,” that so many of us crave, we might actually start to realize that we have a lot to teach each other.

It took me years to understand that white supremacy is a disease, a vicious and cruel disease that touches and destroys everything it finds, every single person I know has had a life destroyed by white supremacy. Either because of the men who abused us or because of. the patriarchy that ensured the opportunities they would have had otherwise, was denied to the people who needed them the absolute most.

Lots of people are so rightfully, and justifiably angry, that we’re not taking into consideration the science behind brainwashing.

If you beat a child every day of their life for 18 years, they’re going to direct their anger at the place that you tell them to direct their anger, just so that they don’t get hit again. THAT’S BASIC PSYCHOLOGY.

A secret American terrorist organization, the Ku Klux Klan led underground resistance against the civil rights and political power of newly freed Black people who had been enslaved. The organization was formed during the Reconstruction period after the American Civil War. The Klan’s goal was to reestablish the dominance of the prewar plantation aristocracy. It was revived in an altered form in the 20th century.
https://kids.britannica.com/students/article/Ku-Klux-Klan/275338

Each of us has to stop for a moment, look at the people we’re battling and ask ourselves one very important question: