Signs of trauma are often hard to understand unless you know what you're seeing, or you know 100% of a person's experiences. Here are some things to look for thanks to Help Guide dot Org. Emotional & psychological symptoms: Shock, denial, or disbeliefConfusion, difficulty concentratingAnger, irritability, mood swingsAnxiety and fearGuilt, shame, self-blameWithdrawing from othersFeeling sad … Continue reading How Trauma Survivors Date Ethically
Ghosting: The Ultimate Response To Choosing Not To Deal With Your Feelings
Why is it so difficult to tell someone you aren't interested in them? I've had it happen to me more than once, and yeah it hurt, but I grew up, I got over it, and I moved on. I will say that I appreciated the honesty, even if it stung, much more than I would … Continue reading Ghosting: The Ultimate Response To Choosing Not To Deal With Your Feelings
Stop Writing Books About Love And Gangsters, God Damnit. It’s Not Sexy or Cute Anymore
This Post contains conversations about sexual abuse, gang life and trauma. Please consider this your trigger warning. Okay we get it, you think that loving gangsters is sexy and cute. Raise your hand if you've seen "Legend" which is to my mind, the most accurate gang life film ever written. Legend is about Identical twins … Continue reading Stop Writing Books About Love And Gangsters, God Damnit. It’s Not Sexy or Cute Anymore
Y’all Want Me To Feel Guilty
It doesn't matter what color your skin is, your abuser is always going to find reasons why you're telling on them is more important than their actions as an abuser. That's just a fact. True abusers don't want to acknowledge their actions, they don't want to admit that they could have done better and made … Continue reading Y’all Want Me To Feel Guilty
Why You Should Read Her Blog Before You Date Loud Brown
So...last year I had the opportunity to meet a bunch of famous people, and the question came up of course, "would you date a famous person?" I think I have to say I don't honestly know...it would have to be a fairly special person, because although I am trying to work my way toward literary … Continue reading Why You Should Read Her Blog Before You Date Loud Brown