I like many “strong” people have been told that I am strong so often, I quite often forget that I am allowed to ask for help, and because people see me as so strong, they usually don’t believe me when I tell them I am not okay.
People want to believe that the ones in their lives are not normal. They want to believe that we’re superheroes, those of us with brands and platforms, they want to think that we have it all figured out and that we always know where we’re going, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.
Even strong people break down sometimes. Even the most famous people on the planet ask why they’ve been so “blessed” when so many others are seemingly suffering.
Sometimes suffering looks different on different people. Sometimes it’s a pile of drugs or random sex hookups, but other times it just looks like staying alone all the time an hiding from the world. Lots of us do that latter one, and the pandemic has given us the perfect excuse.
But at some point, you have to get comfortable with people again because no one can live happily forever, alone, always.
This isn’t to say you should jump into relationships right away but maybe you can find a new focus in your life that allows you to find groups or organizations that are doing something you love doing.
Volunteer work is a great way to meet new people and has new adventures while keeping up a barrier to protect yourself.
Finding hobbies that get you out of the house also helps pull you out of depression, but wallowing in it forever isn’t going to get your needle moving forward and you know it. I say that because I’ve been wallowing for months and I have a lot of things I need to accomplish over the next two months I am not sure I’m going to have time, but I’m putting this out there in hopes that I get my ass in gear and gets done what needs to get done.
Wish me well.
Sending all my love,
Devon J Hall
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