“Wait Wait, Wait, you’re basically saying you raped a girl and got off on it.”
Choe: “Yeah, laugh laugh laugh anyways”
I will never forget that, and I will never forget the silence from the Asian community about its abusers. We’re talking about pedophiles, rapists, and abusers every fucking day but we’re not going to talk about Choe because he’s part of a marginalized community?
That’s especially when we should be talking about abusers, and while I’m at it, Jonathan Majors hasn’t escaped my notice. It also hasn’t escaped my notice that the Black community was enraged when they found out what he’s accused of doing, at Majors, not at the victim for coming forward.
In a world where I want to be wealthy and well known for helping people to do better or be better, in a world where I want to do better, I’m told to be careful what I say because this shit might come back to haunt me one day.
I Should hope so.
I should hope that I make sure I said all the right things at the right fucking moment because I want to make sure all of you hear me: This shit isn’t okay.
It’s not okay to reward rapists and let them turn their rape fantasies and acts of cruelty into humor for their disgusting audiences. Because the problem is that when men hear that other men have gotten away with it, they start to feel entitled to try it themselves and we’ve seen that trillions of times in billions of rape cases.
Men are absolutely the fucking problem and they always have been, because they take one small thing and turn it into a massive act of violence, they respond in kind, and they never stop to think that their actions have repercussions.
Young ones follow those that came before, they have this genetic need to be warriors, to conquer some unknown firey thing in the universe, and they often don’t stop to think about the consequences of their actions.
Out there are millions of women who have been raped by these men we admire, who think their stories are funny or hilarious, who don’t understand they’ve caused real damage, or don’t care.
This isn’t okay. It’s not okay to keep platforming these horrible people. From Nick Carter – a boy I was in love with at thirteen – to David Choe, Jonathan Majors, Joss Whedon, Mark Walberg, all of them, have horrible behavior in their past and we constantly celebrate them because they do better “now.”
At what cost? At whose cost? Who pays the price of these men’s journeys? Even John Cena has some horrible stories in his wake, does his making the most wishes in the world for kids make up for the harm he’s caused? I don’t really think so.
I don’t think you can change the past with good acts in the future. The past still happened, it’s what makes us who we are in the future. David Choe’s video can’t be found anymore, unless someone wants to dig it up, and it’s only been a few days since the news came out…but it still exists. It’s there, out there somewhere in the universe.
I won’t ever let you forget that you stayed silent Aly Wong, no matter what happens in my career I will never forget my favorite Comedian, who stayed silent on the topic of one of her friends being a possible rapist.
Makes me wonder if that’s the place I want to get to so I can tell you that or if I just wanna turn my back on you. I haven’t decided, but if this ever comes back to haunt me I guess that means I’ll have become important enough for you to read these words. You suck.
At this moment, every single person who stays silent when famous people turn out to be rapists, pedophiles, or abusers, sucks.
That’s the end of it.
The child in me who needed people who looked like you isn’t looking at you with pride. i never in my life thought I’d see an Asian woman be as fabulous as Aly Wong, but now I know what it cost you to be who you are.
I’m talking about the fact that you’re comfortable being the kind of parent who has a rapist as a friend.
Okay. Good to know.
Devon J Hall
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