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Bisexuality Fucking Exists. Okay?! Suck it up!

Just hours after coming out as bisexual, Miss Staten Island Madison L’Insalata was banned from participating in the borough’s St. Patrick’s Day Parade.

The other night a famous friend of mine, someone I fucking love and adore came out to his friends and family as Bisexual. He’s one of the most famous people on the planet, and if the world knew, there would be many who support him.

He’d never work in Hollywood again. 

There is this idea that people who are Bisexual can never be fulfilled in any relationship because we’ll always be wanting for what we do not have. The perception is that Bisexual people are not mature enough to have real relationships.

This disgrace of a mentality is so fucking backward and disgusting that it is genuinely offensive.

“I would probably list myself as mostly straight,” Hutcherson, who Jennifer Lawrence has joked is “in love” with their “Hunger Games” co-star, Sam Claflin, said. “Maybe I could say right now I’m 100% straight. But who knows? In a f**king year, I could meet a guy and be like, Whoa, I’m attracted to this person.” ~Josh Hutcherson 

He hasn’t been in a movie since he said that, and while I am not saying Hollywood has Blacklisted him, they certainly are not banging down his door with offers apparently, because he’s a fucking phenomenal actor who should be lining up movie roles for at least the next twenty years.

People who are famous are never allowed to be who they really are in general though, but what about those of us who aren’t famous? Who don’t have the monetary status as celebrities who come out as bisexual?

What about those of us who have to hide our sexuality and can’t openly and honestly discuss it the way that Josh Hutcherson was allowed to? what about those of us who get fired, lose family or friends? What about those of us who are sitting at home struggling for years with just saying the fucking words “I Am Bisexual”?

The other night I was meditating, trying to accept this reality about myself and someone or something kept saying “no you’re not, that’s not allowed,” well why the fuck not?

Who says? Who has spoken to God and heard the words “don’t be yourself?” because I got news for you, that’s probably not God. We talk all the time, or well I talk and I imagine something close to the idea of God responds sometimes.

Sometimes its with things happening around me and sometimes it’s at tiny voice whispering, “it’s okay, you’re safe,” and it’s always the same voice.

I recognize it in my sleep just as I recognize it in my daily life when my mom surprises me with a gift or a compliment.

I see it when I feel myself becoming more open and honest with my Doctors, I feel at peace with myself despite the fact that the world tells me that I shouldn’t be bisexual.

Which leads me to the LGBTQ community, what the fuck are you doing not supporting Bisexual people in your fucking community? Get the fuck over yourselves. You are not God, you are a human fighting for the same rights that we are.

The opportunity and the God given right to be whoever we are, despite what other people tell us we should become. We are fighting for our right to fucking exist, and you have the nerve to sit in our safe spaces and tell us that our sexual identity is unwelcome or invalid? Fuck you.

I love the LGBTQ community like I love few other things in this world. Last year I had the chance at Pride to see a Bible thumping Jesus supporter tell us that we’re all evil and I saw the community combat his hatred with kisses and hugs to random strangers and love and support and it was fucking amazing, largely because we don’t see couples of LGTBQ walking down the street in Surrey often.

When they do it’s obvious that they are hiding beneath their “don’t fuck with me costume,” we don’t see LGBTQ couples making out in park benches or at the mall, because there’s an unspoken rule that I still haven’t figured out.

Kids who are trying to discover who it is they are supposed to be while simultaneously becoming who they were always meant to be are told they are confused when they come out as LBGTQ, and that includes when they think they are Bisexual.

There’s gotta be a rule somewhere in the Gay agenda that says you can be Gay, You can be Lesbian, You can be Transgender but you can’t be anything else and before you at me and tell me that I’m full of shit ask any Bisexual you know if they are one hundred percent comfortable in the LGBTQ community, because they aren’t.

Much like the CIS/Hetero/Straight community, Bisexual is this thing that people can’t seem to quantify or understand and there for decide is inheriantly more evil than anything else on the planet. They do this with Gay people, they do this with Lesbian people, they do this with Trans and Queer people.

The problem is that the LGBTQ community isn’t doing enough to support us.

Where is the outrage about Madison L’Insalata coming out as bisexual? where are the protests? where is the phone tree? I can promise you it won’t happen. People won’t care, because no one cares about the Bisexual’s, we’re just an afterthought that makes the list f letters sound good and it’s not okay anymore.

Stand up for us the way that we do every year. Understand that it’s hard for us to be our true selves with anyone, so the fact that we’re sharing our lives with anyone can be often a huge achievement for us.

Understand that like many of you we deal with emotional and mental health issues, but some of us are perfectly healthy and have wonderful relationships with one singular other person in their ‘ship, quite successfully.

Some of us struggle more than others do, some of us want to fit into a box to help you feel comfortable but the problem is that there isn’t a box that can contain all the awesome we have to share with the world.

Accept us as we are, or get the fuck out of the fucking way.

Sending all my Bisexual love,

Devon J Hall

 

 

 

 

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