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#OnlyFans…And The Downside To Being A Powerhouse Woman (Or Man)

I’ve been thinking about Only Fans, and personally I think it’s a great idea. It’s a private platform that puts the power in the hands of the people who control the content.

I’ve been thinking about Only Fans, and personally I think it’s a great idea. It’s a private platform that puts the power in the hands of the people who control the content.

I think the major problem most people have with platforms like Only Fans is power.

Only Fans is essentially visual pornography, but from what I understand instead of the company being in control of the content, it is the users who are in control of the content.

I think that’s fucking amazing. In the 90s there were a lot of rumors of under age people, unsafe working conditions and terrible treatment of performers.

Only Fans puts the power in the hands of the people with the content, and I think that’s what bother’s others the most.

Am I right? To highlight one example, I heard a story of a man who contacted the boyfriend of an OF user, to say “your girlfriend has an only fans account.” The response made me proud of the male race, “I know, I take the pictures,” the boyfriend replied.

I fucking love that.

There is a sensuality to taking pictures of your partner that you can’t have with just anyone, an intimacy that brings both people closer and keeps them connected by the experience.

I am always curious about those who judge other people’s relationships, and again I think it comes from power.

Men who would never in a million years “let” their partner share naked photos of themselves, don’t understand the delicate balance in a relationship between a man and a woman.

I honestly think that sharing naked photos of yourself with people willing to pay for themselves takes a level of courage that I just do not have.

I remember in high school the girls were talking about whether or not they could ever become prostitutes – because that’s what we called them back then in the 90s.

“It’s not something I could ever do, I just don’t have the courage” was the basic mentality of a bunch of 90s high school students.

I have never had an issue with women or men who work in the sex industry, it’s never been something that bothered me, and I think that’s largely because I am a survivor of sex trafficking. I think I understand what it takes to be a sex worker, it takes courage, and strength, and it takes knowing how to take care of yourself.

I think the reason that people hate sex workers is because they are proud of who they are, and I think people hate that.

There are always people out there who want you to be ashamed of yourself, of everything you are, because it makes them more feel more comfortable, if you feel “uncomfortable” about being who you are.

I think that these men and women should be proud of who they are, and what they are doing. They are the kinds of people who are going to raise children who are not afraid or ashamed of their own bodies.

They are men and women who they themselves, have found empowerment and courage in sharing everything they are with those willing to pay for it, and I think again, at the end of the day it comes down to power.

Everything in this world is about power, those who have it, those who want it, those who want it but don’t want you to have it, those who have it but refuse to share it. Power at the end of the day is the sin that rules this world. The craving of it it absolutely destroys lives and changes everything we think we feel about ourselves.

When I think about my body issues, I know they come from being used as a verifiable sex toy for so many years, by men who didn’t care about what I wanted or needed, but instead took what was only rarely offered freely.

Being in touch with your body, is a spiritual experience that few understand because so many of us are raised to be ashamed, to hide our bodies from the world, to keep them private and “sacred”.

I don’t think there is anything less sacred about posting photos of yourself naked on the internet for your customers to see.

I think the idea of hiding your body from the world comes from the belief that God will hate you if you share it with whomever you choose. If that were true, I’d be dead or scythed by now.

I was never a professional sex worker, but I have respect for them, not because they are sex workers, but because they are a part of the human race, and for all it’s fault, I pretty much love humans. Mostly.

Only Fans is designed for adults to enjoy pornography put up by the users – it is designed to protect the users from the viewers.

Unlike places like PornHub who have been accused more than once of hosting Child Porn, Only Fans removes that ability by strict guidelines and monitoring.

So the only people getting hurt by using Only Fans are the men and women who face abuse from the viewers who want to judge and shame them into putting clothes over their beautiful bodies.

Get the fuck over it.

To hear that Models are judging these men and women are frustrating. Only Fans users are Professional Money Making Models.

The fact that they are selling images of their bodies, as a part of their brand, is none of your fucking business. They could be having sex on camera, they could be having sex with clients, they could be doing whatever the fuck they want and as long as noone is getting hurt or forced to do it against their will, it’s none of your business.

The reason that you think it’s your business, is because you have a “I’m here to save the world” complex, the problem is that this isn’t an issue you should be focusing on. You’re focusing on it because you have nothing else in your life and it’s really kind of pathetic.

I genuinely feel sorry for you. There are people in the Sex Industry who are absolutely there against their will, and Sex Workers do more for us than any of you outsiders ever will.

They stand up for us, they fight for us, they are out there getting laws changed to protect us. They are out there using their platforms to speak for us, and you want to try and tear them down? Fuck you ten times over.

I wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for Sex Workers distracting the men who abused me so I could have some “free time”. I wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for the men and women who educated me on what was happening to me, through social media mostly.

I wouldn’t be here if they weren’t here to educate me and teach me how I can use my platform to help other victims of child sex trafficking.

So before you decide to open your mouth and contact their partners to tell them what that is happening, as if the partner doesn’t already know, look in the mirror and tell yourself to fuck the hell off and shut the fuck up.

It’s none of your business. And that’s your real problem. You’re fucking nosy. I don’t know how else to say it.

I have a friend named M who uses Only Fans, and this person is pretty popular, this person works with their partner to make sure the pictures and videos that get posted are the best possible quality, if someone had come to M’s partner to tell them what M was doing, their partner would laugh. They already know.

It is not your place to interject yourself into someone else’s life, because you don’t know their experience or their reasons and even if you do, you have to respect the fact that every person on earth has different boundaries.

Their boundaries might be different than yours and the only thing wrong with that is your inability to keep your mouth shut and your feelings to yourself.

Sending all my love,

Devon J Hall

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