• In The Midst of War There Is Celebration and More Fear

    Today, November 12th, 2022, the people of Kherson, Ukraine are celebrating because the Russian forces have retreated. People think this is a reason to celebrate because it means “that” the particular city is safe. And it is, hundreds of people are safe and will sleep in their beds safely tonight. Tonight. But then what happens…

  • He Calls You Honey Because He Doesn’t Know Your Name

    Yup. I said it. For three years and two days my name was “honey,” and that’s with a low h because I apparently reminded him of Jessica Alba, who by the way? Isn’t Black or mixed race. He didn’t love me, and I didn’t love him, but in the insanity of our lives, we were…

  • Your Problem Is You Want To Skip Some Steps

    Oprah Didn’t “become” Oprah, overnight. It took 30 years for Oprah to amass the following she has, and it took almost no time at all, for that audience to slowly vanish when Oprah went off the air. O Magazine went from being the first woman-led, Black-owned magazine in the entire world, to a digital online…

  • Thank You Oscar The Grouch, It’s Time to Grow Up but I Promise to Visit

    So just now before I sat down to write this, I cleaned up the kitchen by putting the dishes in the sink and spraying down the stovetop. Normally this wouldn’t be a big deal, but I miss this side of myself. The side that cleans up messes and puts stuff where it belongs, because I’ve…

  • #SAYHERNAME Pieper Lewis, 18 #Rape Victim Kills Alleged Rapist, Receives 20-Year Sentance And Must Pay Alleged Rapists Family For His Death

    Because in a world where everything is terrible, why not make it worse? Pieper Lewis is an 18-year-old kid who claims that this man raped her. “All she had to do was serve five years and she’d be free….” For killing a man who raped her, in America. Ladies, we have a problem here. If…

  • Do We Appreciate Evolution Enough?

    There are those who are convinced that we evolved from apes, and others who believe that aliens brought us here, but either way, evolution has played a pivotal role in the growth and well, haha, evolution, of humanity. Whatever you believe, right now at this moment, as I watch folks “turn the lights on” and…

  • How Do You Market Your Blog?

    Many people started blogs thinking that they were going to take over the world, and at the time, the 90s hadn’t caught up with the potential possibilities of social media yet, so Tik Tok, Facebook, none of that existed when the first blog hit the internet. The first food blog launched in July, 1997 as…

  • Where To Find Me After Twitter

    Twitter is changing, and like all of you, I am genuinely concerned about what will happen to the community that we’ve been building. There are more than a few ways to keep in contact with me, if we lose touch through Twitter and I want to make sure you all know how to find me.…

  • How Do You Deal With “Your” Mental Health Issues?

    I’ve been writing a lot lately about how tired I am, but there are other things I do, that I don’t talk about, and it’s not for any reason other than I didn’t think to, until someone asked, so…erm here goes. The AMA Of Mental health or whatever. How Do You Deal With Anxiety? Anxiety…

  • The Freedom Writer’s Struggle (Not the Film) – Setting Up A “Red Banana” Network For Yourself And Your Safety

    More than Ever Before, Women Around The Globe Are Standing Up Against Oppression, It’s Beautifully Terrifying “She’s Missing!” The two most terrifying words someone can hear, are about a person they love. This is especially true, when a writer, or artist whose known to be subversive, disappears off the internet. People ironically worry about those…

  • Follow the Fog

    “How are you doing?” She asks me, a friend I’ve barely scratched the surface of knowing. The first one to ask how I’m doing in months, and to give me the space to talk about how I’m feeling. “Honestly I’m scared, things are starting to come together, and I’m afraid I’m still on the edge…

  • The Difference Between Who You Want To Speak With, Vs Who You’re Actually Speaking With

    So many of the people that I get to talk to, are amazing, genuinely amazing people. They are fun, outlandish, silly, weird, beautiful, talented, wise, smart, and educated in a variety of different ways and each and every single one of them is someone who deals with mental health issues on one side of the…