“We Were On A Break…” You Can Break with Family, but You Can’t Walk Away Forever

So I have had some practice with this, and I am getting better at it every single day. I am not going to say that I am teaching YOU about how to create a network of stable equitable support around you, but I am putting down what I’ve learned so far, so that it’s on the record. As you know this whole site is about … Continue reading “We Were On A Break…” You Can Break with Family, but You Can’t Walk Away Forever

Find a Moment of Peace To Hold Onto When The Shit Hits The Fan (A Christmas Reminder)

For a lot of families, the ideas of courtship, dating, marriage, and eventual childbearing experiences, are traditions that everyone is “supposed” to want, but in my case, I have an aunt, and a mother who taught me that they didn’t choose men who would devalue them, but instead chose their independence. Are they happy? That’s not for me to decide, is that the life I … Continue reading Find a Moment of Peace To Hold Onto When The Shit Hits The Fan (A Christmas Reminder)

The Truth of It All: A Letter to Krisya Ohana

In a hundred billion, trillion years, I never thought that I would ever ever, be the girl who tells the world that there are layers to this planet, and this existence, that I will never understand. “Never backward, always forward. Always.” -Luke Cage This quote is one that I’ve been repeating to myself for awhile now, but instead of actually listening to it, I’ve been … Continue reading The Truth of It All: A Letter to Krisya Ohana

Finding Your Tribe Is Transformative

When I was growing up in Calgary, I spent an abnormal time alone as a child. Stuck in between trying to be who other people thought I should be, and trying to make tiny inroads to being myself, no matter what I did I was never cool enough, never smart enough, never worthy of spending time with other kids. As a teenager at eighteen after … Continue reading Finding Your Tribe Is Transformative

It’s The Christmas Season

I swore I wouldn’t write a post about this holiday season because I am not a fan. In years past Christmas has always been a work holiday. Last year was the first year my mom had made Christmas dinner since I was fourteen, and that’s because every Christmas my family would gather at the Church and hand out presents and food to those who needed … Continue reading It’s The Christmas Season