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How Trauma Survivors Date Ethically

Signs of trauma are often hard to understand unless you know what you're seeing, or you know 100% of a person's experiences. Here are some things to look for thanks to Help Guide dot Org. Emotional & psychological symptoms: Shock, denial, or disbeliefConfusion, difficulty concentratingAnger, irritability, mood swingsAnxiety and fearGuilt, shame, self-blameWithdrawing from othersFeeling sad… Continue reading How Trauma Survivors Date Ethically

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There is Nothing Sexy About Guns and Gangs

I've been thinking a lot about this, and it's actually the reason that's pulled me away from a very well known, predominantly Black women writing group. There are an abnormal number of books written about women falling in love with gangsters - with the story usually revolving around the idea that these women can either… Continue reading There is Nothing Sexy About Guns and Gangs

Abuse, advice, Written while Stoned

You Are Not Going To Find Your Perfect Love In A Strip Club. I Promise You. Find Yourself First.

Does he even know your name? Or does he have a nickname for you that no one else in the world calls you because they all know your fucking name? Yeah, he doesn't love you. Does he have any interest in who you are as a person, or does he use pretending to get to… Continue reading You Are Not Going To Find Your Perfect Love In A Strip Club. I Promise You. Find Yourself First.

Abuse, advice, Written while Stoned

When It’s Time To Open The Doors: How Do You Know When It’s Time To Fall In Love?

I've been thinking about this, and I wrote a thread about it on Twitter, but I wanted to expand on these ideas. When it's time to open the door to love, how do you know that you'll survive it if things go bad? How do you know that you're ready? How do you know and… Continue reading When It’s Time To Open The Doors: How Do You Know When It’s Time To Fall In Love?

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Just Because You Love Them, Doesn’t Mean They Love You

I've been thinking and I had an Epiphany today. Just because you love someone, doesn't mean they have to love you back, and when I say this I am speaking specifically of abusive relationships, so consider yourself warned. When we are in love, we are willing to do whatever we can to make the person… Continue reading Just Because You Love Them, Doesn’t Mean They Love You