Most days I struggle a lot with my emotional regulation, and it’s a new process that I am trying to learn that I am not fully comfortable with. Not knowing I needed to know this stuff explains a lot, but it’s also really frustrating that the version of the English language that we speak now, is not the same as the one I grew up with.
In the 90s we were told that if we wanted to be a part of a great society we had to focus on our work and our education, but when we were kids who were abused and traumatized, we were punished for not being able to sit still, for being uncomfortable and stressed out.
We’re still not acknowledging the emotional toll it takes on a child whose been sexually abused, and we need to. We’re so shocked about the numbers, and the fact that it’s still happening, that we’re not focused on what the symptoms of sexual abuse are.
Now that we know what they are:
- attitude issues
- emotional regulation
- sudden fits of anger or violence
- sudden drinking or drug issues
And many more things, we know that we have to deal with them, but instead, we lump all of these issues under the heading of “mental health issues,” without discussing why we have mental health issues. It’s because we were bullied, torn down, and abused in a variety of ways that confused everything about us on an almost cellular level.
We know that sexual abuse causes neural divergence in people, we know that neural divergent struggle more than neural typical people, and often live with more mental health issues than neural typical people, so it seems to me that this is a problem with a clear solution.
There needs to be more focus on mental health, but there also needs to be more focus on mental health patients, and their experience, their stories, and the abilities they have learned to refocus after acknowledging they have mental health issues.
Survivor’s Connection is my way of making a point to give the chance to real mental health patients, to have a real conversation, openly and honestly with each other.
2023 will mark the 2nd annual Survivors Connection, and this year we’re going to have specific speakers, a beautiful mix of folks from around North America, to discuss their mental health issues in a safe and open platform for all the world to see.
I am particularly excited about this one because this year I know what worked last year and what didn’t, and I know how to organize the technology in a way that I wasn’t able to before.
This year we’re going to have 4 great female speakers leading the event, and then two gentlemen who will be joining us as cohosts. I am excited because I get to do this with my friends, but I am also excited to hear from other patients.
It can be frustrating to feel like you’re alone and this is going to be a really great event for those who are interested in being educated about how alone they are not.
If you’d like to sign up to participate please know that none of the speakers are being paid, and the tickets to Survivors Connection are free. So if you’d like to participate please sign up below.